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Manipulation, commonly known as emotional manipulation, is the practice of using deceitful methods to exploit, manipulate, or otherwise influence people for one’s own benefit.

It is the purvey of tricksters, scammers, and phonies who disregard moral norms, mislead, and exploit the fragility and gullibility of others.

Manipulation, at its most basic level, is the use of coercion to acquire power, advantages, and/or favors at the detriment of someone else.

Types of manipulations

1. GASLIGHTING

Gaslighting is a psychological manipulation technique in which a person makes a victim doubt their own reality or sanity in order to obtain greater control.

Someone attempting to gaslight you might:

• Tell outright falsehoods (to/about yourself, others)
• deny ever saying or doing anything, even if You’ve got proof.
• make you doubt your own perceptions of reality
• Use the things you care about as ammo.
• wear you down in the long run
• Include positive reinforcements
• In attempting to perplex you. • utilize perplexity to your detriment
• They put their own flaws or wrongdoings onto you.
• Attempt to sway others to your side.
• accuse you or others of being insane
• accuse everyone else of lying to you
• When a victim isn’t aware of what’s going on, gaslighting works. It will be easier to counteract the trend if you become aware of it.

LOVE BOMBING

Love bombing is a psychological manipulation technique in which someone lavishes you with attention, devotion, presents, and love in order to acquire control of your actions.

Someone who is attempting to love bomb you might:
Gifts will be lavished upon you. (This frequently involves extravagant gestures like bouquets, jewelry, or even trips.) It’s all designed to make you feel like you owe them something.)

Give you endless devotion and admiration. (they will say things like “you’re the only person I want to spend time with,” “I adore everything about you,” and “I’ve never met anybody I like as much as you,” but it’s crucial to remember the context.)

they’d want to keep in touch with you at all times. (Love bombing can take the form of nonstop communication, such as texting, phoning, or messaging on social media.)

When you set boundaries, they become irritated. (Try telling a love bomber to calm down or put any form of limit with them, and they become enraged.) This can take the form of them saying that you don’t care about them/don’t love them.)

NEGGING

Give you endless devotion and admiration. (they will say things like “you’re the only person I want to spend time with,” “I adore everything about you,” and “I’ve never met anybody I like as much as you,” but it’s crucial to remember the context.)

Insults are disguised as questions:
“Don’t get me wrong, but are you sure you’re going to eat all of it by yourself?”
They make you feel bad for complaining about their abuse by downplaying it.

EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL

Emotional blackmail is a defective kind of manipulation in which people lay demands on their victims and threaten them in order to obtain what they want.

Emotional blackmail’s underlying message is that if you don’t do what I want when I want it, you will get hurt.
The emotional blackmailer usually has no alternative coping mechanisms or go-to strategies for communicating and interacting in a healthy way. To obtain what they want, they resort to grandstanding, banging on doors, bullying, and other destructive tactics.

They usually don’t have the resources to figure out how to communicate their concerns.
Here are some examples:
“I’ll murder myself if you ever stop loving me.”
“I’ve already talked to our (pastor, therapist, friends, and family) about this, and they all think that you’re being ridiculous.”
“With or without you, I’m going on vacation.”
“How can you claim you love me and be friends with them at the same time?”

THE GUILT TRIP

In close relationships, guilt-tripping actions are common (romantic partnerships, friendships, professional relationships, or family relationships.)

If someone is attempting to guilt-trip you, they may:

• emphasize their own efforts and hard work in order to achieve their goals and make You feel as if you’ve let yourself down.

• make a sarcastic or passive-aggressive remark about the situation

• if you attempt to talk about the problem, you’ll get the silent treatment. deny their annoyance, even if their behaviors suggest otherwise
• exhibit no desire to do anything to improve their own circumstances
• groan, cross their arms, or smash items down to express their discontent using body language
One of the most effective methods to prevent guilt-tripping is to call it out when you detect it.

Manipulation’s psychological impact:

A person who has been the target of manipulation may:
• Be depressed.
• Anxiety develops.
• Develop unhealthful coping mechanisms.
. Make an effort to please the manipulative person all of the time Lie about how they feel.
. Prioritize the needs of others before their own.

Manipulation may be so widespread that it leads a victim’s view of reality to be questioned.

How to Deal with People Who Manipulate You:

Disengage.

If someone is attempting to elicit a specific emotional response from you, refuse to give it. If a deceptive buddy flatters you before asking for a favor, for example, don’t play along—rather, respectfully respond and move the discussion.

Have faith in yourself.

Manipulation can sometimes take the form of one person attempting to make another person doubt their abilities, intuition, or even reality. This might wear us down over time and drive us to question ourselves about these things. If this occurs frequently in a close relationship, it is probably best to distance yourself.

Deal with the circumstance.

As soon as you see manipulative conduct, call it out. Instead of starting with an accusatory statement, keep the focus on how the other person’s actions are affecting you. This will help you reach a resolution while emphasizing that their manipulative tactics will not work on you.

You’re not the only one who feels this way.
Here are a few things you may do to assist yourself:

Trust your instincts.

Try to trust your instincts if you think you’re being manipulated. Manipulators have a way of making us doubt our own reality. Attempt to control your emotions by keeping a journal (if possible) in which you may express yourself.

Speak with a professional.

Sharing your feelings with someone who can help you understand and validate them may help you see the light in even the darkest of situations.

trust a friend

Send a message to a friend It’s a good idea to delete your texts after the conversation for your own safety, especially if the person manipulating you has access to your phone.)
Put your faith in someone you can rely on.

The advantages of confiding in someone in your life are twofold: you can find an ally in your camp to help you digest what you’re going through, and you can spend some quality time away from the manipulator. Build a core group of individuals you know will always be there for you.

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